You might think that touching her a lot on the first date shows that you’re into her.
Not the case, says relationship expert April Masini of Ask
Avoid the pitfall: There’s only so much to talk about over dinner.
“Invite her to do something you know a lot about, and are passionate about, like a baseball game or a concert with your favorite band,” Dr. “You’ll have lots to say.” There’s a huge difference between being frugal and being cheap, Masini says.
(Just don’t advertise that you’re taking her hiking because you don’t want to pay for food.) Sure, you have to tell her about yourself, but dominating the conversation by rambling about your life will make you look narcissistic.
Or worse: By not showing any interest in her, it can seem like you’re just waiting for the date to be over so you can get her into bed, Dr. Avoid the pitfall: What will impress her even more than learning about your accomplishments is seeing that you’re genuinely interested in hearing about .
Avoid the pitfall: Check yourself before you name-drop—it almost never sounds good, Masini says.
As for that story about your buddies’ epic trip to Tijuana, save it for when you get together with them.
But flashing possessions or dropping “one time at Princeton” into the conversation too many times just makes you look like an A-hole.
Avoid the pitfall: As a general rule, first-date conversations shouldn’t include talk about anything too superficial unless there’s a good reason for it to come up.
Most guys can look decent if they invest in a good haircut, do some man-scaping, and dress well, Masini says.
Avoid the pitfall: Take heart in the fact that you don’t have to work nearly as hard as she does to prepare for a date.
Or try a beer with a low ABV: Bud Select 55, Miller 64, and Beck’s Premier Light are all under 2.8 percent—and decently tasty. But don’t dive right into the darkest moments of your past. Avoid the pitfall: First, make sure you’re actually ready to date—and not stuck in past relationship drama, says Masini.